For years, I’m sure all of us have been told that personality means more than looks. Especially from parents when you are crying over your crush not loving you when you were a teenager, but do any of us actually listen to it?
We live in a world where a person’s image is everything and the way that they look, dress or act affect their life, but what is that person like underneath? If people go by looks alone, there is less of a chance that the personalities will match. Sure, someone can look beautiful to the rest of the world, but their personality can make them seem like they have a rotten core.
I have had personal experience in this and seeing it happen. One of my friends dates only really hot, society perfect looking guys, but they have no likeable personality. They are all either jerks or idiots because they have no brains, but focus on looks.
Now I’m not saying this happens all the time. I do know some really hot looking guys that have nice personalities, but then again they were all really religious and friends with my super religious best friend…
Anyway…the outside does not make the person, but the inside does. It is on the inside that counts and it wasn’t until I meant my current boyfriend of 9 months. He is not what people used to think I would go for, but it was his personality that drew me in. Find someone who makes you laugh because what is life without laughter?
You need to have something in common with your partner more than you like to party and you look nice. My boyfriend and I have so much in common we are practically twins when it comes to what we love and hate.
Close your eyes, don’t look at your partner, look deep inside them and see them for who they really are. Do they make you laugh just from the littlest things? Do they make you smile just by being with you? Is your mood lifted just from looking at them? Or are you just with them because of their looks?
My mother married my biological father out of obligation and duty. The marriage lasted barely a year because they had nothing in common and he changed. You need to know the person you’re with fully. Know everything about them and if you become comfortable enough to sit in bed with them, in your PJs with messy hair, no make up and glasses while watching TV and eating crisps with dip and your partner doesn’t care and still calls you beautiful like mine does, then you have love and marry them!
Love is more than just looks. It is about taking the good times with the bad. It is about being around when they go through sicknesses and feel like they can do anything. It is about being an anchor to your other half. Love is not about looks, it’s about finding your soul mate.
Yes, I do believe in soul mates:
A soulmate (or soul mate) is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity.This may involve similarity, love, romance, intimacy, sexuality, sexual activity, spirituality, or compatibility and trust. I know I have that with my partner and before you settle down 100% be sure you do too.
According to Plato:
- Aristophanes states that humans originally had four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces. He continues that there were three genders: man, woman and the “Androgynous”. Each with two sets of genitalia with the Androgynous having both male and female genitalia. The men were children of the sun, the women were children of the earth and the Androgynous were children of the moon, which was born of the sun and earth. It is said that humans had great strength at the time and threatened to conquer the gods. The gods were then faced with the prospect of destroying the humans with lightning as they had done with the Titans but then they would lose the tributes given to the gods by humans. Zeus developed a creative solution by splitting humans in half as punishment for humanity’s pride and doubling the number of humans who would give tribute to the gods. These split humans were in utter misery to the point where they would not eat and would perish so Apollo had sewn them up and reconstituted their bodies with the navel being the only remnant harkening back to their original form. Each human would then only have one set of genitalia and would forever long for his/her other half; the other half of his/her soul. It is said that when the two find each other, there is an unspoken understanding of one another, that they feel unified and would lie with each other in unity and would know no greater joy than that.
I guess that would sometimes help me to understand why before my boyfriend there was always this emptiness and longing that even when I did date, never went away. It’s about finding the person that you can be yourself with, if you have to hide the craziness that we all have, then you’re not being you and you aren’t showing giving yourself a chance to see if the relationship you are in is a sure one.
You have to have more than love when it comes to being with your soul mate. You need to have a friendship where you can easily say that the person you are with is your best friend and that you can tell them everything, I know that I can. You need to have the passion of lovers and you need to have the lust that comes along with it as you do need to be sexually attracted to them as well as their personalities, but when the passion and lust has died down, it is the personality and how well you get a long. It is about how much romance you still have between each other and how compatible you are.
Find your soul mate. Don’t give up the search and once you have found them, yes there will be trials and tribulations that will test you guys, but if you love them enough and know in your heart that they are worth it, then know that love can overcome everything.